“Healing” means letting go so the thoughts and feelings don’t impact you.

Your goal is to neutralize the story from the past so it loses its power over you. It becomes transparent, with no meaning and no effect. You change your relationship to your thoughts so they don’t sit like a dark cloud over you. Your goal is not to:

• Make yourself forget about the past (impossible)
• Stuff or ignore your feelings (creates other problems – addiction, anyone?)
• Wait for an apology or acknowledgment (postpones happiness)
• Wait for time to heal all wounds (you may need more than time)
• Wallow endlessly in your emotions (oh, so painful)
• Redo the past (you can’t change what happened but you absolutely can change your reaction to what happened)

Keep holding as possible: freedom…peace…sanity…freshness in the moment…fully alive now.